Sex Positions: Your Guide to Trying Something New
Whether you've been together for years or you're still learning what each other likes, switching up positions is one of the easiest ways to bring something new into the bedroom. A small change in angle, pace or who's in control can completely change how sex feels.
This is your starting point for every Lormi position guide. Each one explains how to get into the position, why people love it, how to make it more comfortable, and which toys can take it further.
Explore our position guides
- Missionary: the classic face-to-face position, and far more versatile than its reputation suggests. Great for intimacy, eye contact and adding a vibrator between you.
- Doggy style: a rear-entry favourite for deeper penetration and G-spot or P-spot stimulation. Easy to adjust from slow and sensual to fast and intense.
- Reverse cowgirl: the partner on top faces away and takes full control of depth and rhythm. Perfect for anyone who likes to set the pace.
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Find a position for what you want
- For closeness and eye contact: try missionary. You're face to face, with plenty of room for kissing and touching.
- For deeper penetration: try doggy style. The rear-entry angle allows fuller depth.
- To be in control: try reverse cowgirl. The partner on top sets the speed and depth.
- For easy clitoral stimulation: try missionary or reverse cowgirl. Hands are free to slip a toy into place.
- For a first time trying something new: try missionary. It's familiar, comfortable and easy to adapt.
Five tips before you try a new position
- Talk first. Ask what your partner fancies trying and agree a way to say "stop" or "slow down". Checking in is part of good sex, not a mood-killer.
- Warm up. Foreplay helps the body relax and get aroused, which makes every position more comfortable.
- Use plenty of lube. New angles can mean new friction. A good water-based lube like our own Loob keeps things smooth. Browse the full lubricants collection to find your favourite.
- Use pillows. A pillow under the hips or knees can change the angle completely and take strain off joints.
- Laugh it off. Not every position works first time. Treat it as play, not a performance.
Toys that work in almost every position
Adding a toy is the quickest way to make a familiar position feel brand new.
- Clitoral stimulators like the Womanizer Duo 2, Satisfyer Pro 2 or Romp Switch X add targeted sensation during penetration.
- Couples' vibrators like the We-Vibe Sync 2 are worn during sex, so both partners feel the vibrations.
- Vibrating cock rings like the Happy Rabbit cock ring can help erections feel firmer and add vibration for both of you.
- App-controlled toys like the Lovense Lush 4 let your partner take control of the vibrations.
- Mini wand vibrators like the Lovense Domi 2 are small enough to hold between bodies in most positions.
Sex positions FAQs
What is the best sex position?
There's no single best position. It depends on what you and your partner enjoy, your bodies and the kind of sensation you're after. Trying a few is the best way to find out.
What is the best position for female orgasm?
Most people with a vulva need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Positions that leave hands free or let you add a toy, such as missionary with a clitoral stimulator, tend to work best.
How can we make positions more comfortable?
Use pillows to support hips and knees, go slowly when trying something new, use plenty of lube and keep talking about what feels good.
Do we need condoms with every position?
If you're not in a monogamous relationship where you've both been tested, use condoms whatever the position.
